no good deed goes unpunished

finally, it's about time for me to put this bag of #%#@ behind me...

in my own private life i have a few principles so as my work life... things like... never hire your friends and/or relatives, never conduct any business transactions with your friends and/or relatives, and never ever buy from or sell to your friends and/or relatives... well, come to think of it, there is only 1 principle... do nothing serious with your friends and/or relatives.

why do i say this? because in my past life, i've always wanted to help especially the ones that are close to us i.e. friends, relatives... however, it always turns out ugly.

i helped a friend once to find a job. so i introduced him to my boss and we ended up working together. it was great at the beginning but then it got worse by the day. at the beginning, he'd deliberately introduce himself as me, took my credits, confused my clients and co-workers. in the end i confronted him... he said, "this is my only chance to advance..." i thought... ok, if that's what you think. i was young and therefore i was quite mad but there was nothing i can do about it. we're not friend anymore... at least not to my standard...

i helped a relative once to find a job. so i introduced him to my boss and we ended up working together. (that sounds awfully familiar)... well, to cut the store short... this guy ended up went behind our company's back and promised the client that he can handle the work with or without us. so he was hired by our client and we're outed. never confronted him but he's not my relative even we still are technically... but definitely not to my standard...

i helped a friend once when she needed money. my wife and i both agreed to lent her the money. never heard back from her...

the list goes on and on... i thought i might be rude and arrogant at times but i never intentionally trying to hurt anyone... right? or is it one of those things like the one in a movie where you might have done it but you don't know, "the fact that you're here hurts me" like that...

never ends... so i decided i need to break this off by archiving it... in other words, write in down, record it electronically, then remove it from my brain permanently. it seems to work with my emails :)

i think these things that i did were stupid. will i do it again? probably... it's in my genes... in the end i asked... did i help someone? hmmm... perhaps that's all that's matter...